Friday, 07 December 2007 @ 4:47pm.
I was thinking today about “nature versus nurture” after watching a news bite on television about a set of twins who were given up for adoption, but given to two different adoptive families on purpose for a science experiment! What the heck?!? I won’t get into a tirade over ethics issues here, but the story did get me thinking (yet again) more generally about how much of “us” is “natural” and how much is from socialization and various lived experiences.
For example, I know that many of my thoughts and behaviors regarding race and ethnicity have been shaped by past experiences - positive and negative and all those things in between. I think that my love of books came from my grandmother who diligently sent me “Little Golden Books” almost every chance she got. I appreciate cooking and showing love through cooking from my mother. I oscillate between being hardened and being the biggest softie ever; this trait probably comes from my wacky, yet lovable family and friends, as well as personal experiences at school, work, and out and about in the world over the years.
On the other hand, how might one explain my love of spinach and lima beans as a child and even now? Where in the world did my inner strength come from? Some people get knocked down and don’t get up again, but somehow I’ve managed to get up (even if it did take time!) and move forward (even if slowly!). Why did I ask “strange” questions as a kid like “Why is a horse called a “horse” and not a “table?” (I’ve had some very interesting intellectual discussions with political theorist friends about that one.)
Well, if one believes in past lives, then there is at least a partial explanation in that some traits are carried forward in the “newest” soul… Biology must be part of it, too, since my sister and I are *very* different, but somehow ended up liking the same things in adulthood though I cannot recall learning/socializing about such things earlier (e.g., sushi, asking a million questions and needing to know lots of details, clean teeth, astrology, most kinds of cheeses, and flip flops). Socialization also clearly contributes to who we are as people. Is there something else that I’m missing? I’m now thinking of a psychology class I took ages ago that mentioned an experiment with baby monkeys where some were provided cuddles with a blanket on a metal piece while others were only given the metal…hmmm…then there were the case studies about how some cultures have a preference for parents to carry their little children facing out and others prefer the babies to face in…okay enough rambling for now…
On a different kind of random note, I have cancelled my MySpace account. I think the account got compromised some time ago, but since I rarely check it, I didn’t find out until today. Apologies to anyone who received unwanted messages by accident. I’ve also be rethinking the value of networking sites… Is it just a fancier version of an address book? Do the sites really bring people together for meaningful connections? Is the time invested into the sites worth the actual returns? Any thoughts?